Thanks Drew. I have had a hurting back most my life from gymnastics. I’ve been “fearful” about stretching and stuff until recently. It hurts no worse then it has ever. I think my being so focused on it has been making it hurt or a more noticeable hurt. Like my anxiety was better but now let’s zone in on another issue. I’ve been watching The Rage a documentary onnDr. Sarno. Very interesting that our minds are so much more powerful then known! I do have an appointment with my doc just because she’s the one I talk to with my anxiety and I mentioned my back. Thank you for your response. You are the best!! ❤️
My thought have developed to think my pain is bad and there is somethings seriously wrong with me. I’ve had a sore back most my life but because I’m bringing fear with it it is making my anxiety worse. Any advice??
Same rules apply. Thoughts about a sore back are no different than any other anxious or fear inducing thought you have. Think it, then let it go, even when that is scary. You have to learn by doing that you don't need a special set of instructions for every anxiety trigger. Of course, this always assumes that you have been given a clean bill of health. Once you have, this is the way.
What helped me in what you’re saying Drew is to challenge these irrational thoughts by letting go. Every time I thought I was going crazy I would say to myself, “Go ahead, start babbling that you’re crazy out loud to everyone”. This was usually in a social setting or around the neighbors outside on a weekend. “Do it, roll around on the floor or ground and throw things at people, do it”.
The tension that produced these thoughts would immediately stop after I challenged them in my mind. I could finally see that the thoughts were a lie and they went away. Oh they would eventually come back but I knew what to do until they left for good.
I love this segment now Drew because now I’m learning to discard the small stupid stuff before it turns into a mountain. Thank you!
Good morning. The thoughts will come and go. That is a given. Trying too suppress them is of no use or even better impossible. Acknowledging them is the key. Knowing they exist and watching them move on without any involvement is where peace and freedom live. 🙏🏻
Awesome stuff, Drew! I know in the therapy and New Age world they use different terms for the "two minds"; personally, I use "Parent" and "Child" mind. My Child mind thinks of all sorts of zany stuff, gets worked up when a friend doesn't text me back immediately, considers cancelling going to something due to some small discomfort. My Parent mind listens to my Child mind and decides whether to engage with these thoughts and in what manner. Most often my Parent mind simply pats my Child mind on the head and says, "Thanks, but no thanks" and continues focusing on the task at hand.
Love your description and simple analogy in being able to look at the crazy/fearful/stressed out thoughts, versus the ‘adult’ reassuring/calm/higher self/empowered thoughts. Excellent.
Glad it is resonating. Although I still have very distressing thoughts throughout the day, their impact is very minimal. A quick terror or dread , and then I’m back to focusing on what’s in front of me.At the end of the day these short instances are pretty much forgotten, replaced by more meaningful memories.
So encouraging to hear, and to know it’s possible, that’s my seemingly eternal challenge: ‘allowing’ all these those random dread/distress thoughts, and to ultimately reduce/minimise their weight, duration and impact to a perhaps few seconds before then returning to business as usual. No upheaval having taken place. That is my hope🙏🏼
It really is possible. I was at an incredible botanical garden looking at an orange tree, had a thought about my elder in-laws and the immense pain that will come when they pass, spent five seconds or so in terror and dread and thoughts that this feeling would never pass, some automatic blank thought arrived, and then I was back in the moment. I enjoyed the rest of the visit.
I have just recently begun tuning in to my thoughts. I never realized how negative they were. I have begun observing them acknowledging them and letting them go moving on to more positive productive thinking. It’s a journey. As always Drew, spot on!
Thanks Drew. I have had a hurting back most my life from gymnastics. I’ve been “fearful” about stretching and stuff until recently. It hurts no worse then it has ever. I think my being so focused on it has been making it hurt or a more noticeable hurt. Like my anxiety was better but now let’s zone in on another issue. I’ve been watching The Rage a documentary onnDr. Sarno. Very interesting that our minds are so much more powerful then known! I do have an appointment with my doc just because she’s the one I talk to with my anxiety and I mentioned my back. Thank you for your response. You are the best!! ❤️
My thought have developed to think my pain is bad and there is somethings seriously wrong with me. I’ve had a sore back most my life but because I’m bringing fear with it it is making my anxiety worse. Any advice??
Same rules apply. Thoughts about a sore back are no different than any other anxious or fear inducing thought you have. Think it, then let it go, even when that is scary. You have to learn by doing that you don't need a special set of instructions for every anxiety trigger. Of course, this always assumes that you have been given a clean bill of health. Once you have, this is the way.
What helped me in what you’re saying Drew is to challenge these irrational thoughts by letting go. Every time I thought I was going crazy I would say to myself, “Go ahead, start babbling that you’re crazy out loud to everyone”. This was usually in a social setting or around the neighbors outside on a weekend. “Do it, roll around on the floor or ground and throw things at people, do it”.
The tension that produced these thoughts would immediately stop after I challenged them in my mind. I could finally see that the thoughts were a lie and they went away. Oh they would eventually come back but I knew what to do until they left for good.
I love this segment now Drew because now I’m learning to discard the small stupid stuff before it turns into a mountain. Thank you!
Good morning. The thoughts will come and go. That is a given. Trying too suppress them is of no use or even better impossible. Acknowledging them is the key. Knowing they exist and watching them move on without any involvement is where peace and freedom live. 🙏🏻
EXACTLY! :-)
Awesome stuff, Drew! I know in the therapy and New Age world they use different terms for the "two minds"; personally, I use "Parent" and "Child" mind. My Child mind thinks of all sorts of zany stuff, gets worked up when a friend doesn't text me back immediately, considers cancelling going to something due to some small discomfort. My Parent mind listens to my Child mind and decides whether to engage with these thoughts and in what manner. Most often my Parent mind simply pats my Child mind on the head and says, "Thanks, but no thanks" and continues focusing on the task at hand.
Love your description and simple analogy in being able to look at the crazy/fearful/stressed out thoughts, versus the ‘adult’ reassuring/calm/higher self/empowered thoughts. Excellent.
Glad it is resonating. Although I still have very distressing thoughts throughout the day, their impact is very minimal. A quick terror or dread , and then I’m back to focusing on what’s in front of me.At the end of the day these short instances are pretty much forgotten, replaced by more meaningful memories.
So encouraging to hear, and to know it’s possible, that’s my seemingly eternal challenge: ‘allowing’ all these those random dread/distress thoughts, and to ultimately reduce/minimise their weight, duration and impact to a perhaps few seconds before then returning to business as usual. No upheaval having taken place. That is my hope🙏🏼
It really is possible. I was at an incredible botanical garden looking at an orange tree, had a thought about my elder in-laws and the immense pain that will come when they pass, spent five seconds or so in terror and dread and thoughts that this feeling would never pass, some automatic blank thought arrived, and then I was back in the moment. I enjoyed the rest of the visit.
Martin Seif and Sally Winston have it broken down into "Worried Voice", "False Comfort" and "Wise Mind". So many great ways to conceptualize it! :-)
The idea of multiple "minds" itself is probably unknown to most people.
I have just recently begun tuning in to my thoughts. I never realized how negative they were. I have begun observing them acknowledging them and letting them go moving on to more positive productive thinking. It’s a journey. As always Drew, spot on!
Thanks Drew, just what I needed to hear about today.