Thanks for this. My biggest issue is tolerating any physical distress… I’m working on it. I try not to react when it hits and just continue moving or talking or whatever it is I was doing. I appreciate you both for this, great way to end my week.
I, too, am amazed and in awe of those folks who travel so far from home and clearly either truly enjoy the new place, or at the very least, are unfazed by being in another world. They don't have "What if" I want to go home syndrome. I notice that many people do not even comprehend such a feeling. I had one friend note, "The further from home I get, the less stressed I become."
I do wonder. Is there a difference between just from a negative thought to a more positive one or is it really necessary to hang with the worried or self-flagellating rumination? In fact, I don't really see how that's done. Hoomans can't think of two things at once, so how does one allow a thought to just hang around? If I decide to think about something else, it often helps with unwanted thoughts if I'm not in full blown anx mode or stuck in a really obsessive place. I don't feel like I have a choice. I either have the thought until I get distracted or I distract myself with one of several topics that will engage my attention. Is that a bad thing? Is it counter-productive because I'm able to jump ship and get away from the troublemaking thought??
Perfectly articulated!!! The link between perception and ensuing behavior is the entire answer to getting over panic. I am so grateful to hear the message repeated in so many different ways each day. Your podcasts always inspire me and remind me that someone out there understands what we're all going through.
I will be thinking of her words when I go out to do my exposures today! Thank you, Drew and Joanna!
Wow. THIS, this is what I needed today. Just made it through Hurricane Ian and I’m always amazed at how fast we can adapt to situations (like no electricity) when we have no other choice. But if I always give myself an out (like I sometimes do with my exposures), I become less and less able to handle the curveballs life will continue to throw my way.
Thank you Joanna for these golden nuggets of wisdom… simply and perfectly described with the basic premise summed up beautifully at the end (which means it’s much easier to remember, and then apply, esp. in those anxious moments when standard reason usually goes straight out the window!). Also loved the point that the principle doesn’t just apply to severe instances of fear or panic in our lives (which many with anxiety disorders probably focus on and try to nut out the most)… but also the low-lying grey matter of distress & discomfort-intolerance in between all those big moments… the day-to-day life uncertainty and unpleasant feelings and what I like to call the micro-behaviours/reactions associated with them: feeling irritable, guilt, alone, worried, boredom etc. As Drew notes in his excellent books, the more we can practice and master accepting/allowing/re-focussing when it comes to these normal life feelings of discomfort, the easier and more automatic it will hopefully be to do the same in those moments when the bigger, more serious stuff kicks in. Thanks Drew & Joanna, for another brilliant episode which I’ve decided I’ll benefit from listening to on a quite regular basis😊🙏🏼
This article is very helpful. Tolerating the discomfort has been a barrier to me. Good advice for the weekend.
Thanks for this. My biggest issue is tolerating any physical distress… I’m working on it. I try not to react when it hits and just continue moving or talking or whatever it is I was doing. I appreciate you both for this, great way to end my week.
I, too, am amazed and in awe of those folks who travel so far from home and clearly either truly enjoy the new place, or at the very least, are unfazed by being in another world. They don't have "What if" I want to go home syndrome. I notice that many people do not even comprehend such a feeling. I had one friend note, "The further from home I get, the less stressed I become."
I do wonder. Is there a difference between just from a negative thought to a more positive one or is it really necessary to hang with the worried or self-flagellating rumination? In fact, I don't really see how that's done. Hoomans can't think of two things at once, so how does one allow a thought to just hang around? If I decide to think about something else, it often helps with unwanted thoughts if I'm not in full blown anx mode or stuck in a really obsessive place. I don't feel like I have a choice. I either have the thought until I get distracted or I distract myself with one of several topics that will engage my attention. Is that a bad thing? Is it counter-productive because I'm able to jump ship and get away from the troublemaking thought??
Perfectly articulated!!! The link between perception and ensuing behavior is the entire answer to getting over panic. I am so grateful to hear the message repeated in so many different ways each day. Your podcasts always inspire me and remind me that someone out there understands what we're all going through.
I will be thinking of her words when I go out to do my exposures today! Thank you, Drew and Joanna!
Wow. THIS, this is what I needed today. Just made it through Hurricane Ian and I’m always amazed at how fast we can adapt to situations (like no electricity) when we have no other choice. But if I always give myself an out (like I sometimes do with my exposures), I become less and less able to handle the curveballs life will continue to throw my way.
Thank you Joanna for these golden nuggets of wisdom… simply and perfectly described with the basic premise summed up beautifully at the end (which means it’s much easier to remember, and then apply, esp. in those anxious moments when standard reason usually goes straight out the window!). Also loved the point that the principle doesn’t just apply to severe instances of fear or panic in our lives (which many with anxiety disorders probably focus on and try to nut out the most)… but also the low-lying grey matter of distress & discomfort-intolerance in between all those big moments… the day-to-day life uncertainty and unpleasant feelings and what I like to call the micro-behaviours/reactions associated with them: feeling irritable, guilt, alone, worried, boredom etc. As Drew notes in his excellent books, the more we can practice and master accepting/allowing/re-focussing when it comes to these normal life feelings of discomfort, the easier and more automatic it will hopefully be to do the same in those moments when the bigger, more serious stuff kicks in. Thanks Drew & Joanna, for another brilliant episode which I’ve decided I’ll benefit from listening to on a quite regular basis😊🙏🏼