Wow sooo true i discovered that i react way less fearsome if i hear if tragedy or illness or other triggers i used to fall into anxiety pretty quickly...thank you for pointing out the difference between feelings and anxiousness...eyeopener to what i left behind..not so long ago
Commitment to continue trying every day, courage and consistency, are truly the keys to turning a corner and getting better. At times, my friends call me and dump their problems/anxieties on me. Sometimes it's a challenge to be an attentive listener, because I am already keyed up myself. Over time, these feelings of being able to listen to their anxieties has gotten better. My distress tolerance has grown (albeit slowly) as I have been able to do more things each day for myself. It's been interesting to note this occurrence. I am working for that day that you have already reached, where I am totally unbothered, Drew! I know it's out there for all of us if we keep going! Thanks for the post!
My mother used to tell me all the time if you would just stop obsessing about anxiety you would get over it. No I was searching for answers to get relief not obsessing. The funny thing is that its genetic in my family and its from her side. I do talk about it with my cousins because some are still trying to cope. I am nearly free of anxiety most days but I still have nocturnal anxiety. I think it will go away with time. But I got a lot of relief by saying what I really think and feel and told them I didn't care if they did not like it. Boy that got rid of a lot of anxiety. :-)
I must admit I also thought, how do you not get triggered into anxiety mode. I wonder if it is helping or hindering me, but this has helped. Thanks again Drew I will continue on my exposures path
A very useful reminder in distinguishing the feelings/symptoms of stress versus anxiety - for me sometimes it’s too easy to confuse the two. Sometimes I recognise I’m not feeling my best, due to specific circumstances (eg. worrying, tiredness, too busy at work, too many things/tasks/people/emails to respond to)… much of which many non-anxiety-disordered people experience as plain ‘stress’. However I often confuse these as being solely anxiety (and yes, in some cases that could well still be a part of the equation) because the symptoms can be similar, which can then cause me to dramatisize and panic my anxiety is returning, or I’m regressing, or it’s not working etc etc, and beat myself up. I probably need to look at the symptom/s itself in the moment, break down into constituent parts and recognise which elements may be just plain old stress. And know that it’s perfectly normal and remind myself there’s millions of people around the world feeling this, and that there’s steps to take to effectively manage/reduce it.
On another note, I’m not in a place where I feel too comfortable freely talking to my family/friends about my anxiety disorder journey (at this point I perceive there will be too much auto-judgment or well-intended but unhelpful advice proffered, as has been received in the past). However on the rare occasions I do speak about it, and the wonderful help I’ve received esp. by reading Drew’s and other books/his podcasts about recovery, I don’t feel anxious and it doesn’t cause my anxiety to increase. Surprisingly I speak confidently and calmly about it, and if anything it feels like a load off, esp. if the person understands and listens without judgement. Which I’m then thankful for. Thanks for another useful, thought-clarifying TAM episode today Drew👍🏼
Man i so needed to red this today . I was prescribed a new drug for my adhd yesterday . And it’s triggered me in every way , all to do with change and my fear of it , followed by argument with wife , trigger , loss , alone . Why does all this triggers and fear suddenly come from . Always coped ( I think ). Can you be in such a messy anxious avoidance place for so long that you can’t get out of it ?
Wow sooo true i discovered that i react way less fearsome if i hear if tragedy or illness or other triggers i used to fall into anxiety pretty quickly...thank you for pointing out the difference between feelings and anxiousness...eyeopener to what i left behind..not so long ago
Commitment to continue trying every day, courage and consistency, are truly the keys to turning a corner and getting better. At times, my friends call me and dump their problems/anxieties on me. Sometimes it's a challenge to be an attentive listener, because I am already keyed up myself. Over time, these feelings of being able to listen to their anxieties has gotten better. My distress tolerance has grown (albeit slowly) as I have been able to do more things each day for myself. It's been interesting to note this occurrence. I am working for that day that you have already reached, where I am totally unbothered, Drew! I know it's out there for all of us if we keep going! Thanks for the post!
My mother used to tell me all the time if you would just stop obsessing about anxiety you would get over it. No I was searching for answers to get relief not obsessing. The funny thing is that its genetic in my family and its from her side. I do talk about it with my cousins because some are still trying to cope. I am nearly free of anxiety most days but I still have nocturnal anxiety. I think it will go away with time. But I got a lot of relief by saying what I really think and feel and told them I didn't care if they did not like it. Boy that got rid of a lot of anxiety. :-)
I must admit I also thought, how do you not get triggered into anxiety mode. I wonder if it is helping or hindering me, but this has helped. Thanks again Drew I will continue on my exposures path
A very useful reminder in distinguishing the feelings/symptoms of stress versus anxiety - for me sometimes it’s too easy to confuse the two. Sometimes I recognise I’m not feeling my best, due to specific circumstances (eg. worrying, tiredness, too busy at work, too many things/tasks/people/emails to respond to)… much of which many non-anxiety-disordered people experience as plain ‘stress’. However I often confuse these as being solely anxiety (and yes, in some cases that could well still be a part of the equation) because the symptoms can be similar, which can then cause me to dramatisize and panic my anxiety is returning, or I’m regressing, or it’s not working etc etc, and beat myself up. I probably need to look at the symptom/s itself in the moment, break down into constituent parts and recognise which elements may be just plain old stress. And know that it’s perfectly normal and remind myself there’s millions of people around the world feeling this, and that there’s steps to take to effectively manage/reduce it.
On another note, I’m not in a place where I feel too comfortable freely talking to my family/friends about my anxiety disorder journey (at this point I perceive there will be too much auto-judgment or well-intended but unhelpful advice proffered, as has been received in the past). However on the rare occasions I do speak about it, and the wonderful help I’ve received esp. by reading Drew’s and other books/his podcasts about recovery, I don’t feel anxious and it doesn’t cause my anxiety to increase. Surprisingly I speak confidently and calmly about it, and if anything it feels like a load off, esp. if the person understands and listens without judgement. Which I’m then thankful for. Thanks for another useful, thought-clarifying TAM episode today Drew👍🏼
Really trying so hard to get to that place I dream of achieving this.
Man i so needed to red this today . I was prescribed a new drug for my adhd yesterday . And it’s triggered me in every way , all to do with change and my fear of it , followed by argument with wife , trigger , loss , alone . Why does all this triggers and fear suddenly come from . Always coped ( I think ). Can you be in such a messy anxious avoidance place for so long that you can’t get out of it ?