Thanks for another great message! Appreciate you both! On a quick side note….I have taken a shower EVERY day for a bit now, but have taken them WITHOUT the anticipatory anxiety all this week…. so excited to do something so mundane without fear again.
Oh BRAVO! Absolutely love this encouragement. MR.'s cancer journey is giving me so many opportunities to practice what Josh is speaking about. There have been many opportunities that allow me to just sit and work with my anxiety allowing things to flow and recognizing everything is normal. Not always pleasant but I am also working at not being discouraged or sad when I do feel it. As I have noted before, I can either make anxiety my enemy or my friend. I choose friend!
Practical, common sense advice, a good reminder for those occasions when one is feeling defeatist. Josh, your first book was one of the first Anxiety books I read last year - randomly found on Amazon - which helped my understanding enormously (esp. Anxiety as an umbrella term for all the things I felt were ‘wrong’ with me). It led me to seeing the wider Instagram Anxiety community and Drew’s brilliant books. I’m aiming to read your more recent books & also research for any Social Anxiety-focussed equivalents based here in UK (if they exist) as there are some subtle differences between Agoraphobia & Panic Disorder etc which I think I need further help distilling out, to apply to my own situation (eg. like the wonderfully articulated section written by Bethany McLaughlin in ‘The Anxious Truth’ - after reading this I knew that Social Anxiety was absolutely what my issue was, and always has been). Thanks for a great post today.
This is a great topic; thanks for doing it. It’s something I hear all the time. I like to remind people that the presence of the feeling is not the “problem”; it’s how they’re reacting and responding to it. Resisting it in any form is what’s likely to make it more persistent. Great episode!
Well, I'm not sure the word "tolerate" is very helpful here. Remember Dr. Claire saying " Gritting your teeth and putting up with" your feelings of anxiety is not the same as "accepting" or Drew's 'surrender and do nothing". Just sayin'.
There’s a reason we all try to find words that resonate with is. I agree with Josh’s “willful tolerance” but I know that some people relate more to my “surrender” or the Claire Weekes “float” (which I have a problem with). These nuances and different voices and words are why some people naturally gravitate toward specific guides or helpers. No one of us can connect at a significant level with everyone so we work together. 🙂
Thank you! Because of your book I have finally learned how to separate my anxious feelings from the "me" that lives in my head. I can now turn my back and say "OK, you're just a false alarm and I don't have to anything about it"! Phew!
Thanks for another great message! Appreciate you both! On a quick side note….I have taken a shower EVERY day for a bit now, but have taken them WITHOUT the anticipatory anxiety all this week…. so excited to do something so mundane without fear again.
That's a big deal! Go Theresa! :-)
Oh BRAVO! Absolutely love this encouragement. MR.'s cancer journey is giving me so many opportunities to practice what Josh is speaking about. There have been many opportunities that allow me to just sit and work with my anxiety allowing things to flow and recognizing everything is normal. Not always pleasant but I am also working at not being discouraged or sad when I do feel it. As I have noted before, I can either make anxiety my enemy or my friend. I choose friend!
Practical, common sense advice, a good reminder for those occasions when one is feeling defeatist. Josh, your first book was one of the first Anxiety books I read last year - randomly found on Amazon - which helped my understanding enormously (esp. Anxiety as an umbrella term for all the things I felt were ‘wrong’ with me). It led me to seeing the wider Instagram Anxiety community and Drew’s brilliant books. I’m aiming to read your more recent books & also research for any Social Anxiety-focussed equivalents based here in UK (if they exist) as there are some subtle differences between Agoraphobia & Panic Disorder etc which I think I need further help distilling out, to apply to my own situation (eg. like the wonderfully articulated section written by Bethany McLaughlin in ‘The Anxious Truth’ - after reading this I knew that Social Anxiety was absolutely what my issue was, and always has been). Thanks for a great post today.
This is a great topic; thanks for doing it. It’s something I hear all the time. I like to remind people that the presence of the feeling is not the “problem”; it’s how they’re reacting and responding to it. Resisting it in any form is what’s likely to make it more persistent. Great episode!
Well, I'm not sure the word "tolerate" is very helpful here. Remember Dr. Claire saying " Gritting your teeth and putting up with" your feelings of anxiety is not the same as "accepting" or Drew's 'surrender and do nothing". Just sayin'.
There’s a reason we all try to find words that resonate with is. I agree with Josh’s “willful tolerance” but I know that some people relate more to my “surrender” or the Claire Weekes “float” (which I have a problem with). These nuances and different voices and words are why some people naturally gravitate toward specific guides or helpers. No one of us can connect at a significant level with everyone so we work together. 🙂
Thank you! Because of your book I have finally learned how to separate my anxious feelings from the "me" that lives in my head. I can now turn my back and say "OK, you're just a false alarm and I don't have to anything about it"! Phew!
Thanks Drew and Josh. That was very helpful.
Why can't you recommend starting a garden, eating healthy food and engaging in a low key healthy lifestyle?