I can relate after being in an abusive marriage for 11 years. A lot of people did not understand how I could not get over the anxiety I was feeling in my marriage because I hid the abuse very well. But eventually three children later the youngest being two I couldn’t take it anymore and left the marriage. That was 21 years ago. Healing does come if you allow it thanks Drew for your encouraging words. Love you Big Guy
My situation as well. I live PLATONICALLY with my ex husband. A covert NPD. I was enlightened to this pathology in March. Shock,l and more fear from this realization. Although it answers MANY questions from our 24 year history of marriage AND divorce. I an also on a very low fixed income and haven’t been able to find housing beyond this arrangement. So I’m financially dependant. Which I know now feeds into this psychological situation. I do pay my own little rent and pay my way, but I have nowhere to go… I’ve looked, and had a section 8 voucher that expired in April because nobody would honor it OR had availability. Housing has become such a issue. Even my recent Therapist suggested I go to shelter(🫤) and she suggested that I really didn’t want to leave. This left me devastated and like you mention Drew, I don’t want to make my life MORE difficult.
I have learned all I can, through great experts on utube. It has kept me anxious, dizzy as I try to recover from all of it. I do have an advantage, that my situation is NOT as volatile as many have it. My heart breaks for them. Never the less
I see it now and there is still mental, emotional and verbal stuff I have to keep in top of and to deal with.I have been implementing boundaries now that I understand…
And I can see this starting to affect his negative energy. My Anxiety breakdown in 2018, unfortunately has kept me vulnerable and needy from him. I had Covid back in Sept and all this plays into supply for him IF you know ANYTHING about this subject. Im saving to buy a good used car, and I have my name on 3 income based Apt waitlists in northern Ca.
from here in Az. They are anywhere from 1 to 1 1/2 year and I have kept this quiet. It’s the only thing I have for housing. And thank you universe that I don’t have Agoraphobia, as I sometimes need to just be out to do my own little things. After a 24 year history, I just want peace in my mind.. body and soul. And to find myself and joy of life again beyond all this. Time becomes so precious at 68. 🌈🌈🙏🙏
This is really well said! Someone in my close circle was peppering my days with unsupportive words about my recovery process for a while. Some comments were so negative that I felt like a victim. I already feel badly about where I am with this problem!!! I don't need to hear about how I am doing things wrong, or asked repeatedly, Why can't you just go to the store alone???!!! I finally started to disengage with that person and I feel so much better for it. There are so many helpful and supportive friends that can provide positive words, and be my cheerleaders. These are absolutely necessary in an impairment such as this. It was only when I removed the negativity, that I realized how vital it is to recovery, that I surround myself with encouraging people, and the ones who will lift me up as I go through so many hard days.
MORAL of the story: Don't let people kick you when you're already down!!! A HUGE part of recovery is believing that you are strong enough to recover. Without this component, it's a much longer and more difficult road. Be kind to yourself and remember this, Would you beat up on someone who also had a serious impairment or illness, like cancer, or any kind of disability??? Of course you wouldn't. Get rid of the people who continue to treat you harshly and only surround yourself with kindness and support for the duration of this whole, trying ordeal!
This hit home,I’m only a few weeks out from a mentally sometimes physically and emotionally abuse of relationship not completely done yet because of children involved but thankfully learning to set boundaries have helped me gain the courage to say no! I won’t take anymore my recovery from anxiety I’m almost there because I feel a huge shift on how I react to things now I’m okay and I know now I’ll always be okay. Thanks drew for this morning news letter. And to those who are in the same position it’s Possible to hard things no matter if you feel alone because you’re not alone and everyone needs to know someone out here is doing what you’re scared to do and doing it with a mustard seed of courage and that’s all you need to do it.
Thanks Drew again. I used to work in Women's Aid UK and could never understand why the abused often returned to the abuser. There are many reasons, but this is a good one.
A heartfelt and uplifting listen, along with good advice and reiteration of facts/truth which are sometimes easily be forgotten. Whilst I’m personally fortunate enough not to be in an abusive situation such as those referred here, this podcast literally brought tears to my eyes. I hope it provides reassurance and hope for those who really need to hear these words.
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I can relate after being in an abusive marriage for 11 years. A lot of people did not understand how I could not get over the anxiety I was feeling in my marriage because I hid the abuse very well. But eventually three children later the youngest being two I couldn’t take it anymore and left the marriage. That was 21 years ago. Healing does come if you allow it thanks Drew for your encouraging words. Love you Big Guy
Thank you for seeing me Drew🥲,
My situation as well. I live PLATONICALLY with my ex husband. A covert NPD. I was enlightened to this pathology in March. Shock,l and more fear from this realization. Although it answers MANY questions from our 24 year history of marriage AND divorce. I an also on a very low fixed income and haven’t been able to find housing beyond this arrangement. So I’m financially dependant. Which I know now feeds into this psychological situation. I do pay my own little rent and pay my way, but I have nowhere to go… I’ve looked, and had a section 8 voucher that expired in April because nobody would honor it OR had availability. Housing has become such a issue. Even my recent Therapist suggested I go to shelter(🫤) and she suggested that I really didn’t want to leave. This left me devastated and like you mention Drew, I don’t want to make my life MORE difficult.
I have learned all I can, through great experts on utube. It has kept me anxious, dizzy as I try to recover from all of it. I do have an advantage, that my situation is NOT as volatile as many have it. My heart breaks for them. Never the less
I see it now and there is still mental, emotional and verbal stuff I have to keep in top of and to deal with.I have been implementing boundaries now that I understand…
And I can see this starting to affect his negative energy. My Anxiety breakdown in 2018, unfortunately has kept me vulnerable and needy from him. I had Covid back in Sept and all this plays into supply for him IF you know ANYTHING about this subject. Im saving to buy a good used car, and I have my name on 3 income based Apt waitlists in northern Ca.
from here in Az. They are anywhere from 1 to 1 1/2 year and I have kept this quiet. It’s the only thing I have for housing. And thank you universe that I don’t have Agoraphobia, as I sometimes need to just be out to do my own little things. After a 24 year history, I just want peace in my mind.. body and soul. And to find myself and joy of life again beyond all this. Time becomes so precious at 68. 🌈🌈🙏🙏
I feel this, I am their.
What do I do thoe the family member is my child who puts me down verberly and demands things that I can not give.
The atmosphere can be ok then it changes so qwick.
I have explained this does not help my recovery.
Ask for help! Make a support network sounds hard because is your child, but remember, “ no one and nothing has the right to steal your inner peace”
We’re here to hear you 💕
Thank you
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Thank you
This is really well said! Someone in my close circle was peppering my days with unsupportive words about my recovery process for a while. Some comments were so negative that I felt like a victim. I already feel badly about where I am with this problem!!! I don't need to hear about how I am doing things wrong, or asked repeatedly, Why can't you just go to the store alone???!!! I finally started to disengage with that person and I feel so much better for it. There are so many helpful and supportive friends that can provide positive words, and be my cheerleaders. These are absolutely necessary in an impairment such as this. It was only when I removed the negativity, that I realized how vital it is to recovery, that I surround myself with encouraging people, and the ones who will lift me up as I go through so many hard days.
MORAL of the story: Don't let people kick you when you're already down!!! A HUGE part of recovery is believing that you are strong enough to recover. Without this component, it's a much longer and more difficult road. Be kind to yourself and remember this, Would you beat up on someone who also had a serious impairment or illness, like cancer, or any kind of disability??? Of course you wouldn't. Get rid of the people who continue to treat you harshly and only surround yourself with kindness and support for the duration of this whole, trying ordeal!
Thank you, Drew!
This hit home,I’m only a few weeks out from a mentally sometimes physically and emotionally abuse of relationship not completely done yet because of children involved but thankfully learning to set boundaries have helped me gain the courage to say no! I won’t take anymore my recovery from anxiety I’m almost there because I feel a huge shift on how I react to things now I’m okay and I know now I’ll always be okay. Thanks drew for this morning news letter. And to those who are in the same position it’s Possible to hard things no matter if you feel alone because you’re not alone and everyone needs to know someone out here is doing what you’re scared to do and doing it with a mustard seed of courage and that’s all you need to do it.
SENDING STRENGTH AND LOVE ENERGY YOUR WAY
Thank you for sharing Lydia. I appreciate you offering encouragement for others going through this. 💜
Thanks Drew again. I used to work in Women's Aid UK and could never understand why the abused often returned to the abuser. There are many reasons, but this is a good one.
A heartfelt and uplifting listen, along with good advice and reiteration of facts/truth which are sometimes easily be forgotten. Whilst I’m personally fortunate enough not to be in an abusive situation such as those referred here, this podcast literally brought tears to my eyes. I hope it provides reassurance and hope for those who really need to hear these words.