Over the last two months or so I had the pleasure of watching one of our friends take on a big recovery challenge and life event, then execute an almost textbook plan for how to expand their comfort zone to meet that challenge. It was really amazing.
This person saw where they were, saw where they needed to get, then mapped out all the steps needed to bridge that gap. It was pretty impressive. But a plan, even a detailed plan, is worthless if it isn’t executed.
The biggest key to our friend’s success over these couple of months leading to this big event was being consistent. Doing exposures every day. Knowing that in order to hit the goal, each of the steps along the way had to be hit and practiced, even on crappy days where this person did not feel so great and especially immediately after the “hard days”. The days that come after “hard days” are pivot points and milestone days in recovery. We often have no idea at the time, but those are the days that teach us the most valuable lessons.
Let me be clear. This person did not power through things like illness or extreme fatigue. This was not an exercise in being “hardcore” or driving themselves into the ground to prove something. There was rest when needed. I believe there were a few days off due to some medical/physical issues. That’s totally OK. It happens. We are allowed to be human.
But in the end our friend did not give in to the strong desire to retreat and do things like taking “self care days” that were really just reasons to back away from scary things. Our friend kept going, kept their eyes on each little goal along the way, and slowly and consistently checked all the boxes they had on their list. Hell, I even saw this person do some pretty big exposures, then declare they they wanted to not only repeat them but expand on them because, “Just getting there isn’t enough. I have to stay there.”
I also watched this person smash two other pretty big goals as SECONDARY things while working on the the main thing.
Brilliant.
Today we’re talking about being consistent and doing the work every day. And where did this wind up for our friend? It wound up with feelings of pride, happiness, and a sense of accomplishment that were able exist and actually shine through even when still feeling anxious. It wound up with an increased sense of competence and a bolstered feeling of confidence. Consistency helped to teach the lessons we talk about all the time in these parts. Consistency was really the glue that held it all together and turned a plan into an actual success.
Rest when tired. Take care of yourself when you need to. But also don’t run, don’t retreat, and do the work consistently without treating yourself as fragile by default. You will learn things this way. What will you learn? I’ll let our friend tell you.
“I think the one thing that’s changed in the last four weeks is my belief that I can cope with the symptoms and that they won’t harm me is growing a lot as traveling further is becoming slightly easier.”
Well will you look at that. Exactly as designed, through consistency.
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