Once again… synchronicity and timing. But I firmly “ BELIEVE “ in this.
I am square in the middle of your recent podcast talking about recovery while living in the not so healthy situations. The very SAME issues has reared its ugly head…. Once again, as I know it will. As I closed my door and went to bed after an incident, I was thiking i am now sooo frustrated trying to recovery from all my own stuff… this situational stuff , that I would just like to hop on that boat with Bilbo Baggins and the Elves and float off to another world. The Anxiety( GAD) gets triggered… and symptoms come. Very uncomfortable.
I was/ am angry that I am the only one doing loads of inner work to change my life and perceptions etc. And I accept this responsibility.
And Because there are NO options at this time for housing for me, it’s feels literally like that rock and a hard place.
I NEEDED this this chat today Drew and I can feel the resistance to the logic.
I don’t like giving up… so I will see the lesson here…. But, It might take another day and one more step forward.
Great advice also for those ‘rock and a hard place’ situations in general life, ie. for me these are also wise words to apply to the difficult situations which the cost of living crisis is presenting us currently (& all the stressful situations falling out of it), which can lead to an awful lot of anxiety, fear, doom-thinking and internal panic. Great lines: ‘What stands in the way, becomes the way’ and ‘Is this situation happening to me, or for me..?’ Helpful food-for-thought perspectives for a dreary Autumn Monday morning in London😊
Aha! Something I've been struggling with. I often feel like I have to do the thing and if I don't it's a massive failure. I have lost the ability to decide if I want to do something or if I'm just doing it because if I don't the anxiety will .'win'. Maybe it's OK to stay at home once in a while and see how that feels. Maybe I'll face a different challenge like missing out or being alone. Exposure isn't just about going out and doing the thing I guess
I am further down the road than you, and one of the great joys now is being able to decide what I actually WANT to do. My husband often tries to get me to go skiing, and in the past I felt like “Well, I have to do it, because I don’t want to avoid, I have to do this as an exposure.” But now I am able to say “This is not related to anxiety at all, but I don’t like skiing!” I can say no without wondering if I failed somehow.
This! I am chugging along but everything I do is for exposure 🙄. I want to go to the park and walk my dogs just because I love it not because I’m trying to build confidence in driving and being alone 🥹.
Wow! Same Jess! If I say no to anything I immediately feel like I’ve missed a chance at another exposure. Even if the invite is for something the old non-anxious me would have turned down because it’s not my thing. I want to do things because they are things I enjoy, not to prove to myself I am ok. I still need work in the driving thing too. Right now trying to walk to my neighborhood park without letting DR stop me has all my attention. You’ll get there! We can all be there. 🙂
Thank you. Needed to hear this. Block in the way is the way. I like that.
Love it.
Hard but doable.
As you always said , we always came OK out of these situations … so let’s trust ourselves
Hi from Az..
Once again… synchronicity and timing. But I firmly “ BELIEVE “ in this.
I am square in the middle of your recent podcast talking about recovery while living in the not so healthy situations. The very SAME issues has reared its ugly head…. Once again, as I know it will. As I closed my door and went to bed after an incident, I was thiking i am now sooo frustrated trying to recovery from all my own stuff… this situational stuff , that I would just like to hop on that boat with Bilbo Baggins and the Elves and float off to another world. The Anxiety( GAD) gets triggered… and symptoms come. Very uncomfortable.
I was/ am angry that I am the only one doing loads of inner work to change my life and perceptions etc. And I accept this responsibility.
And Because there are NO options at this time for housing for me, it’s feels literally like that rock and a hard place.
I NEEDED this this chat today Drew and I can feel the resistance to the logic.
I don’t like giving up… so I will see the lesson here…. But, It might take another day and one more step forward.
Thanks
Ooooo, I like this one a lot! I’ll keep this in mind when I get to this point Because I’m sure it will happen. Thank you for this one Drew!
Really, really important and good! Thanks Drew.
Drew, I tried to join the FB group, but I was either denied or there was a glitch. I just sent the request a 2nd time this morning.
Great advice also for those ‘rock and a hard place’ situations in general life, ie. for me these are also wise words to apply to the difficult situations which the cost of living crisis is presenting us currently (& all the stressful situations falling out of it), which can lead to an awful lot of anxiety, fear, doom-thinking and internal panic. Great lines: ‘What stands in the way, becomes the way’ and ‘Is this situation happening to me, or for me..?’ Helpful food-for-thought perspectives for a dreary Autumn Monday morning in London😊
Aha! Something I've been struggling with. I often feel like I have to do the thing and if I don't it's a massive failure. I have lost the ability to decide if I want to do something or if I'm just doing it because if I don't the anxiety will .'win'. Maybe it's OK to stay at home once in a while and see how that feels. Maybe I'll face a different challenge like missing out or being alone. Exposure isn't just about going out and doing the thing I guess
I am further down the road than you, and one of the great joys now is being able to decide what I actually WANT to do. My husband often tries to get me to go skiing, and in the past I felt like “Well, I have to do it, because I don’t want to avoid, I have to do this as an exposure.” But now I am able to say “This is not related to anxiety at all, but I don’t like skiing!” I can say no without wondering if I failed somehow.
This! I am chugging along but everything I do is for exposure 🙄. I want to go to the park and walk my dogs just because I love it not because I’m trying to build confidence in driving and being alone 🥹.
Wow! Same Jess! If I say no to anything I immediately feel like I’ve missed a chance at another exposure. Even if the invite is for something the old non-anxious me would have turned down because it’s not my thing. I want to do things because they are things I enjoy, not to prove to myself I am ok. I still need work in the driving thing too. Right now trying to walk to my neighborhood park without letting DR stop me has all my attention. You’ll get there! We can all be there. 🙂