I REALLY. like Drew’s response. While there are a shitload of professional and a mature professors of life out there, I have expire an ex what Drew talks about. I overloaded in this( mine) Anxiety journey and ended up feeling
Extra broken… less than… discouraged
that I was NOT finding more peace of mind etc. it even brought on more Anxiety AND symptoms. I have even found it hard at times to watch my favorite women utubers because I was always comparing . So… I have excused myself from watching ….. for now. Stay focused… and stay rested in body mind and spirit days. Steady.. slow and practice my recovery.
As I know when I get to another place with better resilience I can go back to collage( my metaphor) and re introduce philosophies of life with ease.
Thank you for sharing that experience, even though I am sorry that you had it. It's easy to get caught up in the self-help and personal development books and celebs that everyone is excited about. They have their place for sure. Just not necessarily in addressing the recovery process. Keep on keeping on Eileen! :-)
THANK YOU Drew. I just recently found you and enjoy your content very much. At 68, this has been quite a journey for me. It’s taking a while, but I am really trusting now in the simple but powerful lesson
The less-than-glamorous term for what you are talking about is Distress Tolerance. It's about acknowledging, facing, and moving through our "triggers" rather than trying to force or avoid a world that is full of them. For some reason this topic always reminds me of my days of living in apartments. I was always reminded that I had zero control over the noises, smells, and parking, which could put me on edge if and when I allowed it to. Good moments could be ruined, and bad moments could be exacerbated, by the actions of twenty or so other people who I had zero control over. My distress tolerance of this situation did improve over time, but it's something I had to really work towards. It took me acknowledging that loud music at six in the morning was really annoying and somewhat rude, but since I wasn't prepared to speak to the tenant, I was going to give myself a moment to be annoyed, but not be deterred from living the way I wanted to live and doing the things I needed or wanted to do.
Virtually every form of anxiety disorder can be classified as a distress intolerance problem at its core. Excellent observation! We use that term all the time. :-)
Drew, have you ever delved into Gabor Mate or Brene Brown?…they are both people whom have written about Recovery, especially how our current models of Recovery are deeply deeply flawed. I’d highly recommend starting with Mate’s In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts and Brown’s The Power of Vulnerability.
Hey Jason. This always sounds crazy when I say it, but we have to be very careful about taking advice from mainstream "healing" or "personal development" space. Recovery in the context of anxiety disorders is often completely counterintuitive and while I have no issue with folks like Brene Brown, she is never addressing someone with OCD or panic disorder. Neither was Gabor Mate. Good stuff, but we are often swimming in people that have tried to use stuff like that (Tolle is another popular choice) yet wind up frustrated and feeling extra broken because it doesn't "work" for them. So I'm not dismissing the work you're referencing. We just have to be careful in first choosing sources that are specifically targeted to this specific problems, then maybe supplementing with the other stuff. Thanks for the point of view. Love the open discussion! :-)
Thanks again Drew. I don't think I'll be trying my walk outside today as the weather is really bad, but I hope to try over the weekend with your thinks and feeling podcasts in mind
Thank you Drew for your daily emails! I always read them with my cup of coffee before I go to work in the morning. I really appreciate the time you take, and the topics you cover! They have been a huge help!
Sorry… to many typos.
I meant to say amateur professors…
And
I HAVE EXPERIENCED
I REALLY. like Drew’s response. While there are a shitload of professional and a mature professors of life out there, I have expire an ex what Drew talks about. I overloaded in this( mine) Anxiety journey and ended up feeling
Extra broken… less than… discouraged
that I was NOT finding more peace of mind etc. it even brought on more Anxiety AND symptoms. I have even found it hard at times to watch my favorite women utubers because I was always comparing . So… I have excused myself from watching ….. for now. Stay focused… and stay rested in body mind and spirit days. Steady.. slow and practice my recovery.
As I know when I get to another place with better resilience I can go back to collage( my metaphor) and re introduce philosophies of life with ease.
Thank you for sharing that experience, even though I am sorry that you had it. It's easy to get caught up in the self-help and personal development books and celebs that everyone is excited about. They have their place for sure. Just not necessarily in addressing the recovery process. Keep on keeping on Eileen! :-)
THANK YOU Drew. I just recently found you and enjoy your content very much. At 68, this has been quite a journey for me. It’s taking a while, but I am really trusting now in the simple but powerful lesson
Heal you and your LIFE… and the rest will follow.
Much love and peace to all here.
The less-than-glamorous term for what you are talking about is Distress Tolerance. It's about acknowledging, facing, and moving through our "triggers" rather than trying to force or avoid a world that is full of them. For some reason this topic always reminds me of my days of living in apartments. I was always reminded that I had zero control over the noises, smells, and parking, which could put me on edge if and when I allowed it to. Good moments could be ruined, and bad moments could be exacerbated, by the actions of twenty or so other people who I had zero control over. My distress tolerance of this situation did improve over time, but it's something I had to really work towards. It took me acknowledging that loud music at six in the morning was really annoying and somewhat rude, but since I wasn't prepared to speak to the tenant, I was going to give myself a moment to be annoyed, but not be deterred from living the way I wanted to live and doing the things I needed or wanted to do.
Virtually every form of anxiety disorder can be classified as a distress intolerance problem at its core. Excellent observation! We use that term all the time. :-)
Drew, have you ever delved into Gabor Mate or Brene Brown?…they are both people whom have written about Recovery, especially how our current models of Recovery are deeply deeply flawed. I’d highly recommend starting with Mate’s In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts and Brown’s The Power of Vulnerability.
Hey Jason. This always sounds crazy when I say it, but we have to be very careful about taking advice from mainstream "healing" or "personal development" space. Recovery in the context of anxiety disorders is often completely counterintuitive and while I have no issue with folks like Brene Brown, she is never addressing someone with OCD or panic disorder. Neither was Gabor Mate. Good stuff, but we are often swimming in people that have tried to use stuff like that (Tolle is another popular choice) yet wind up frustrated and feeling extra broken because it doesn't "work" for them. So I'm not dismissing the work you're referencing. We just have to be careful in first choosing sources that are specifically targeted to this specific problems, then maybe supplementing with the other stuff. Thanks for the point of view. Love the open discussion! :-)
Thank you so much drew for these daily emails. They are so interesting and helpful. Thank you
Thanks again Drew. I don't think I'll be trying my walk outside today as the weather is really bad, but I hope to try over the weekend with your thinks and feeling podcasts in mind
Thank you Drew for your daily emails! I always read them with my cup of coffee before I go to work in the morning. I really appreciate the time you take, and the topics you cover! They have been a huge help!