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Tammy Stone's avatar

When I'm trying pls don't remind me how I'm not doing it fast enough..

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Barbara Oliva's avatar

.When I don´t stop DOING, tell me " it´s ok to take a break, you deserve it"

. When I multitask and always want to go faster " slow down, there´s no need to rush, "

. When I want to solve, solve, solve , remind me " you don´t have the control of anything or anyone, let things go"

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Theresa's avatar

I have a different issue. My safe person is mainly my husband and one of my four children, a grown son who had to move back home temporarily after finishing his service in the military. I love them both and lean on them especially on the bad days which are more than not lately. My issue is being told to just stop being so scared, you’re fine. I was actually told to “stop with the pity party already, lots of people had your symptoms and they keep going”….I think that broke me a bit and I’m really struggling again. I need a robot to pick me up and remind me of the woman I was and can be again….to remind me the sensations like the lightheadedness are here but are not dangerous….I really appreciate your emails, they have been all that gets me moving some days.

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eileen corado's avatar

I always learn here.

My support person is my ex husband.

We are BOTH 68 and live together

( looong story) because I am on a fixed SS income.

I’m grateful.

I wouldn’t have housing without his support even though I pay my way. We live respectfully… but would like our own lives beyond an intense 24 year history of marriage and divorce.

I am searching for low income housing, and availability in this world is a real issue. I’ve been recovering for 3 years, With it came the giddies and It can be debilitating , but I continue to go out into the world . I do not have any agoraphobia🙏. I have GAD. He tries to help, but My most difficult days scare him. And many times the feeling is

“ oh god” not this again, it’s so bad…

Nothing is helping, there must be something MORE wrong ETC.

I end up trying to console the situation.

I’ve HAVE tried many ways to help him understand the journey for me.

It’s been a rough two days,

and your words here helped me.

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Kristian Tigersjäl's avatar

When I feel useless, remind me that I am loved and that I matter.

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Drew Linsalata's avatar

Excellent. Thank you. :-)

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Simon Collin's avatar

Thanks drew . By accident , they have made them and home my safe haven . And being out of work at the moment, I’m here nearly all day every day . But inside , my all in screaming at me to get out and get going , to get away from the safety ( if that makes sense ) I feel like I’ve merged into their lives rather than living My own . It’s work in progress , and work I am determined to move on with 🙏

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Carol Dale's avatar

When I freeze remind me that I can do this. I am capable.

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Simon Collin's avatar

When I’ve fallen in the passed , I’ve been a single man , and had to get back up and on the horse so to speak . This time , I’m a married dad , and I feel one of the things that is keeping me stuck is the over sympathetic family I have . Sounds crazy, but I feel rather than encouraging etc , I’m being soothed daily , it’s ok to not be ok , youve been through alot , take it easy , be kind to yourself , etc , and could it be this is counter productive for me ??

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Drew Linsalata's avatar

It’s OK to teach your family that you love them and appreciate them, but that this is not helping you. Help them understand what would be more helpful. For the people that love us, the way they can be most supportive can often seem strange so it can take some explaining.

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Susan's avatar

I feel suicidal today so how can I get these thoughts out of my mind

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Drew Linsalata's avatar

There is a difference between feeling suicidal and being afraid that you might become suicidal, which is a very common fear in our community. HOWEVER, if you feel that you are truly a danger to yourself right now you MUST get in person help immediately. This is important. We care about you and want you to be safe so please take whatever steps are needed to keep yourself safe if that is required.

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