Feeling different types of emotions has been difficult to me since my latest "breakdown". I get a sudden sense of overwhelm for silly things like my daughter telling me she got called to work an extra shift and she didn't want to. She put a sad face and just that caused a very unconfirmed feeling I wanted to run from. This is hard for me to swallow. I used to be a manager at my last job and also handled so much my whole life. Now someone says "boo" and I cower in fear. :(
My biggest fear is never being happy again. I don’t see enough joy and I’m scared I never will 😬 things that used to warm my heart hardly register anymore. It’s like I’ve gone cold….and I certainly do t want that.
I Learned to be the “ happy “ actress. This is because my mom was always depressed and angry. She was incredibly tough with my brothers and I, we suffered a lot. Because of that, even in my worst days I PRETEND to be ok, good or even relax. I don’t want my children to see the same I did. This was until I found you, little by little I’m showing them my emotions and show them less control over them ( with lots of balance)
The danger of these conducts is that they can copy and follow patterns which, paradoxically, will lead them to suffer as well. Thank Drew for this extraordinary posts. ❣️❣️❣️
Drew, thank you thank you thank you! How many times have I been told I’m too emotional, or don’t cry, or you need to choose to be joyful. So hearing that my adult life what did I do? Stifle my emotions! And if I felt sad or cried I’d say, what’s wrong with me, there has to be something wrong with me for feeling this way or crying. I’m very good at telling family and friends to feel their emotions and let the tears fall it’s perfectly normal but struggle with myself. I’m a beautiful work in progress everyday. I sit with myself and allow room for whatever I need to feel and allow it to be felt and sometimes I even ask the emotions what they need or what they are trying to tell me I need. Keep your insight coming, love you Big Guy!
My struggle is when I’m happy, I feel as though I need to do more,( The old saying of make hay when the sun is shining.) instead of just enjoying it. The same goes for when I feel anger or sadness. the feeling scares me to be this way and I just want to escape them. I relish the days that I can just emotional coast through. The days where there are some ups and downs but nothing extreme.
I have always had a hard time with anger. Expressing it makes me feel like a bad person. I think it’s how you handle it is key. I can’t let it fester or hide it away so I won’t feel it. It must be dealt with and resolved. This is not easy and sometimes complicated and often the end result is more anxiety or sadness.
Spot on. Accepting all emotions makes sense. I have often felt that i'll always be sad, anxious etc. We avoid things that make us feel 'bad'. Thanks Drew. x
Thanks again Drew. If we don't have emotions we are not human, and some medications seem to quash our emotions and make us zombie like. Since practicing exposures and listening to your podcasts I am becoming more human again as I take less medication. This is also scary, but necessary to live again.
Drew, great post. Have you read The Power of Now? If so, what are your thoughts on that mindset. The act of mindfulness. It talks about seeing your emotions as a separate part of you (“you are not your emotions/thoughts” like you’ve mentioned in the last post).
I have not read that book. But that is a common thread that runs through many different philosophies and even some very effective therapies like ACT. I like the concept of feeling emotions (normal and healthy) without attempting to mind (verb) them. Feeling vs minding. Two very different things.
Feeling different types of emotions has been difficult to me since my latest "breakdown". I get a sudden sense of overwhelm for silly things like my daughter telling me she got called to work an extra shift and she didn't want to. She put a sad face and just that caused a very unconfirmed feeling I wanted to run from. This is hard for me to swallow. I used to be a manager at my last job and also handled so much my whole life. Now someone says "boo" and I cower in fear. :(
My biggest fear is never being happy again. I don’t see enough joy and I’m scared I never will 😬 things that used to warm my heart hardly register anymore. It’s like I’ve gone cold….and I certainly do t want that.
I Learned to be the “ happy “ actress. This is because my mom was always depressed and angry. She was incredibly tough with my brothers and I, we suffered a lot. Because of that, even in my worst days I PRETEND to be ok, good or even relax. I don’t want my children to see the same I did. This was until I found you, little by little I’m showing them my emotions and show them less control over them ( with lots of balance)
The danger of these conducts is that they can copy and follow patterns which, paradoxically, will lead them to suffer as well. Thank Drew for this extraordinary posts. ❣️❣️❣️
Drew, thank you thank you thank you! How many times have I been told I’m too emotional, or don’t cry, or you need to choose to be joyful. So hearing that my adult life what did I do? Stifle my emotions! And if I felt sad or cried I’d say, what’s wrong with me, there has to be something wrong with me for feeling this way or crying. I’m very good at telling family and friends to feel their emotions and let the tears fall it’s perfectly normal but struggle with myself. I’m a beautiful work in progress everyday. I sit with myself and allow room for whatever I need to feel and allow it to be felt and sometimes I even ask the emotions what they need or what they are trying to tell me I need. Keep your insight coming, love you Big Guy!
My struggle is when I’m happy, I feel as though I need to do more,( The old saying of make hay when the sun is shining.) instead of just enjoying it. The same goes for when I feel anger or sadness. the feeling scares me to be this way and I just want to escape them. I relish the days that I can just emotional coast through. The days where there are some ups and downs but nothing extreme.
I have always had a hard time with anger. Expressing it makes me feel like a bad person. I think it’s how you handle it is key. I can’t let it fester or hide it away so I won’t feel it. It must be dealt with and resolved. This is not easy and sometimes complicated and often the end result is more anxiety or sadness.
Spot on. Accepting all emotions makes sense. I have often felt that i'll always be sad, anxious etc. We avoid things that make us feel 'bad'. Thanks Drew. x
Thanks again Drew. If we don't have emotions we are not human, and some medications seem to quash our emotions and make us zombie like. Since practicing exposures and listening to your podcasts I am becoming more human again as I take less medication. This is also scary, but necessary to live again.
Drew, great post. Have you read The Power of Now? If so, what are your thoughts on that mindset. The act of mindfulness. It talks about seeing your emotions as a separate part of you (“you are not your emotions/thoughts” like you’ve mentioned in the last post).
I have not read that book. But that is a common thread that runs through many different philosophies and even some very effective therapies like ACT. I like the concept of feeling emotions (normal and healthy) without attempting to mind (verb) them. Feeling vs minding. Two very different things.
I have. This mind of ours can play tricks x